Individual and Couple Psychotherapy,
Counseling and Consulting
The agenda is yours. You decide what you want or need to work on and my role is to help you increase your ability to live up to your potential. We will do so by focusing on your strengths and assets, as well as the areas of conflict, tension and pain. We reinforce the former while addressing your areas of concern, so you can make sense of them, grow and expand.
What you will achieve:
My approach aims at helping you achieve and maintain self-actualization, growth and a healthy balance in your life. You will learn new ways of understanding and dealing with the issues that are currently holding you back, thus stunting your growth. You will be able to take action by taking charge of your life, rather than feeling powerless. You will become more resourceful, creative and fulfilled in your personal life and in your relationships.
The Method:In my thirty plus year career as a psychotherapist, I learned to listen to the unconscious — those parts of our minds of which we are not aware, but that nonetheless affect our ways of assessing reality, our feelings and our actions and decisions. Both my training and my long experience in the field of in depth psychotherapy have given me the ability to listen to what people say by going beyond the words they use, even and particularly when they are not aware of what they are saying. In this way we get into deeper layers of communication and emotional connection. This knowledge and experience are instrumental in helping me zero in to what may be blocking your growth now and preventing you from feeling as happy and fulfilled as you would like to be. In this way my insight is foundational in shifting you from a powerless position to an empowered one.
These are some of the benefits you will experience:
- Clarify your goals and directions.
- Put things in perspective and reflect on them.
- Achieve deeper understanding.
- Let go of the past.
- Create a healthy balance in your life.
- Feel more comfortable in intimate relationships.
- Access feelings such as joy, gratitude, calm, satisfaction and improve your quality of life.
All information is private and confidential.
If psychiatric services are needed, a referral will be made to a qualified professional.
All sessions are 45 minutes in length. A 24 hour notice is required for cancellations. Sessions are offered at both office locations. In Carefree evening hours and weekends are available as well as regular hours.
Being in an intimate relationship can be the most enchanting of experiences, yet it can also be a source of deep hurts, frustrations and pain. At times of stress, couples get stuck in dysfunctional patterns of mutual blaming, attacking and/or withdrawing, and they don't know how to get out of them. Each partner feels the other is responsible for the problems. Each waits for the other to make the first move, as each sees his or her behavior as a reaction to the other. Needless to say, nothing changes. And, while partners may still love each other, this situation is certainly not conducive to accessing, expressing and enjoying loving and tender emotions.
This is where my psychotherapeutic work can help. Weekly relationship-building couple sessions provide an ongoing source of guidance, self and mutual understanding, education, mediation, support and encouragement to help couples in distress like you move away from negative interactions and learn to relate to one another in ways that are intimacy-enhancing and healing.
My approach to couples' difficulties is based on my book, "Couples at the Crossroads: Five Steps to Finding Your Way Back to Love" available in print and e-book version on Amazon.com. My sessions start when couples reach the crossroads in their relationships.
What are the Crossroads?
They are times in intimate relationships when partners question the foundations of their relationship and their feelings for one another. Couples are at a crossroads in their love when they ask themselves whether they should they stay together or go their own separate ways. My approach is based on the belief that all couples reach the crossroads at one point or another in the course of their love relationship, at times more than once, regardless of how healthy or dysfunctional their relationship is.
Why starting at the Crossroads?
Because, despite individual differences, the dynamics that contribute to couples reaching the crossroads in their love relationships are basically the same for everyone. I call these dynamics "the perfect storm," a combination of current stressors and areas of sensitivity. My approach identifies the perfect storm and helps couples move away from being stuck to taking action and moving forward together. My approach applies to all couples who believe they have failed, have made a mistake, are not suitable to one another and who blame themselves or their partners for the failures in love. It's not that they have failed or are unsuited to each other, but rather that they are both caught in a bad situation and don't have the tools to remove themselves from it on their own. I help couples shift from feeling powerless and ashamed to discovering opportunities to learn, grow together and love again.
Would you like to come on this journey with me?
I will take you and your partner through five steps in a journey of discovery and healing that will deepen your own self knowledge and your knowledge of each other. It will teach you how to deal with the challenges you encounter in your love relationship, and will make your love relationship fulfilling again.
Couples sessions last 90 minutes. Couples will be seen together the first time; then each partner will be seen individually for one 45 minute session, then, for all subsequent sessions, partners will be seen conjointly, unless different plans are made in specific situations.
All information is private and confidential.
A 24 hour notice is required for cancellations. Sessions are offered at both office locations. In Carefree evening hours and weekends are available as well as regular hours.
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